Even though today is Mother’s Day in the US, let’s consider the fact that there is a myriad of ways we individually think of the word “Mother.” The greeting, “Happy Mother’s Day,” can trigger positive or negative emotions. Some of us may dread this day because we are grieving the loss of our mother or a child. Some of us may feel anger or resentment due to the relationship we have with our mother or child. Those of us who don’t have children may feel left out of the celebration and the experience of having a child. And of course, there are those of us who are filled with joy and gratitude because we have an extra day to celebrate the love we have for our mother, and/or our children and grandchildren.
The thing to be aware of is whether that experience is wonderful or dreadful, it is contributing to you fulfilling your purpose in life. Let’s be clear, it is not your purpose, but the energy you feel around it is contributing to how you live your purpose. If you are holding stagnant energy around your experience, you may be missing out on an opportunity for growth into your best self. Life is filled with joys and setbacks. Each one of those events can expand you if you are willing to feel it, process it, and embrace it as a part of life’s journey. This is how you shore up your power, so that you may stand strong in it, no matter what!
In order to heal the stuff that is stuck in the crevices of your soul because of denial, avoidance, and resentment, you must make a definitive choice for yourself. You can choose compassion, forgiveness, and acceptance, which will lead you into enlightenment and ascension from the depths of discomfort. Or you can choose to grieve, rant and rave, and demand an apology, which will keep you in the pain of the past. Don’t forget that when you are stuck in the pain, you are the only one feeling that specific pain. They will continue to do what they do and generally be unaffected by your emotions. So who are you hurting?
This is our time to be free. As Rachelle Farrell sings in the song, I Forgive You, “I just want to be free again. I just want to be me again.” Forgiveness is one of the keys you possess to set yourself free of the stuff that holds you back. Let it go. There’s really no good reason to continue carrying that extra baggage. Remember it’s not what happens to you, but how you respond to what happens to you. How you respond can imprison you or set you free. Your freedom will re-connect you with your powerful feminine energy. So whether you are a mother or not, HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY! Let’s celebrate our feminine energy and our Freedom.
If this discussion triggers something in you that needs attention, I advise you to seek help. You can bring it up with your therapist. Feel free to email me, if I can help as an empowerment coach. And if you’d like more group discussion on this topic in the blog or group trainings, let me know.
Sending lots of Love & Light your way,